The Half Way Check in…
Yes I want it! How do I get it?!
You’ve decided, “YES with a capital Y! I still want to achieve this goal this year.”
So then, where are you in terms of achieving it?
This is the moment of truth. This could be a lovely “high five” moment or it could be a tough love reality check. Be honest. What are you doing on a regular basis to achieve this goal? Where are you doing great? Where are you blowing it? Where are you holding yourself back? Could you be doing more?
To use myself as an example, I’ve had a busy year and can say I’ve achieved some of my goals already. Or at least, I’m well on the road to seeing the success I’m hoping for. But what about the other one or two that I set back in January? They are right where they were six months ago. Any action I’ve taken has been sporadic with little consistency thus little movement has occurred towards seeing these goals become reality. Do I still want them? YES. Am I excited about them? YES. So, I have to get honest with myself as to what I’m doing or not doing to achieve them.
If that sounds like you, then let’s get real.
Big question: Why? Why have you not applied yourself to the best of your ability to make this goal come true. What is stopping you? Where are you stopping yourself?
Now, before we go into our “I suck, I’m a loser, I have no willpower, what’s the point” story, imagine you are talking to a friend instead of yourself. What would you say? Likely, you’d ask them what they were AFRAID of.
When we show up small in our lives it’s because we are afraid. Afraid of rejection, embarrassment, failure…Change alone is very challenging. It can be confronting and awkward and none of us enjoy feeling self-conscious.
So, be compassionate with yourself. And be curious. And…honest. Why haven’t you gone after it? Writing about your feelings is a great way to get clear about not just how you are holding yourself back, but your motivations for not taking action. When you know WHY you are afraid, then you can take action to overcome it. Usually, once we look at our fears, we can honestly say we are willing to try anyway. Putting the smoke and mirrors act to the side allows us to take full responsibility for ourselves and puts us back in the driver’s seat of our lives.
You’ve heard me say this before: Plot it out. What do you want to see happen by July 1st? August 1st? What will you have to do to see that result? Schedule it. For example, let’s say you want to be able to be able to run 3 miles. Well, what actions will you have to take? You’ll probably have to run 3 – 4 times a week for a certain amount of time to build up to 3 miles. Maybe this week you will jog for a 1/2 hour, 4 times. Schedule those runs. What day? What time? Make plans with a friend if it helps. (I also recommend thinking ahead to the excuses you will make to NOT go for it. Prepare for your resistance in advance…excuses are not facts, they are the ways we sabotage ourselves.)
Get super clear about WHAT ACTIONS YOU MUST TAKE. And SCHEDULE THEM.
And remember to reinforce the good stuff! When you actually follow through, give yourself lots of kudos for taking another step forward. Pretty soon, with consistent action, you will see your goals becoming reality.