Today’s newsletter is not about the big goals, the big decisions, the big changes we create in our lives. No, today I’m talking about the stupid shit that we waste our energy on…on a daily basis.
One could argue that our little pet peeves and minor irritations are not a big deal.
But, science is proving that stress, ANY stress, is a major cause of disease. And the little stresses that we put up with every day, add up.
A helpful way to examine what you are wasting energy on is to ask the question:
“What game am I playing that I am no longer willing to play?”
For example, feeling irked when:
The dish is in the sink instead of in the dishwasher.
The laundry is yet to be removed from the dryer.
The neighbor’s dog won’t stop barking.
You get the point. These are small irritations that can cause stress despite not being a very big deal. Consciously choosing to no longer put your energy behind these types of things frees up your energy and lowers your stress level immediately.
You can ask this same question for the bigger ‘games’ you are playing as well.
The game of being envious of your friend’s success.
The game of playing victim to your mother’s criticism.
The game of staying quiet when someone is saying something offensive.
Framing it as a ‘game’ rather than a big issue can sometimes make it easier to adjust your behavior. It also opens you up to seeing the issue from a more objective point of view rather than a personal one.
Seeing your envy as a ‘game’ allows to to decide if you want to opt out of the game entirely. Is the game of taking criticism personally worth your energy? And if you refuse to play the game of staying silent, what new actions can you take that weren’t available to you before?
Whether it’s the little pet peeves or the bigger issues, lightening up your attitude will undoubtedly allow you to have a more honest look at where you are adding unnecessary stress to your days.
I’d love to hear from you on this! What games are you opting out of? (Me? I’m quitting the game of shaming people for not stopping at stop signs! Wish me luck with that!)
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