“I’ll figure it out” vs “I just don’t know what to do.”
Allow me to be blunt..“I just don’t know what to do” is a total cop out.
It’s awfully convenient that you staying ‘confused’ also keeps you safe. If you ‘knew’ what to do, then you would have to take action, step up to the plate, take the risk, own your dream. So “I don’t know what to do” actually means, “I don’t feel like it” or “I’m scared”, etc.
Instead of buying into the “I don’t know” myth, try a different thought:
“I’ll figure it out”
“I’ll figure it out” gives you all the permission in the world to be freaked out and confused. It gives you ownership of where you are at and frees you up to receive help.
“I’ll figure it out” also gives your brain a direction to move…forward. “Not knowing” keeps you in that never never land of poor me. And, if you stay in that land for too long, the label “victim” might surface and none of us want to associate ourselves with that word.
And as much as you might hate to hear this…everything ever created could have been better. Every book, every design, every relationship, every day…there will ALWAYS be room for improvement whether you “know” what to do or not.
So, instead, enlist the phrase “I’ll figure it out”.
Then, keep up with the questions. “How? How will I figure it out? Who do I have to call, what do I have to research, what possible strategy could I use to ‘figure it out’?”
I highly recommend taking that action ASAP, like NOW. Get the ball rolling. Which might mean picking up the phone or quietly journaling or, going for a run (repetitive activities often open us up to ideas our brains are otherwise too busy to hear) Side step your usual excuses and distraction…I sincerely doubt that tweeting is what you need to be doing right now. The truth is, the sooner you start stepping forward in the direction you want to move, the sooner you will achieve your goals.
Decide today to “be the one who pulls it off”. And before you know it, you will have “figured it out”.