“We are not doers, we are deciders. And once we decide, the doing becomes easy” – Ralph Blum
Think about how you feel when you “hope” something will happen. Most of us feel, ‘okay’. Maybe ‘slightly positive’. But also, hoping for something makes us a victim of the outcome. Hope offers us no power in the situation.
How about instead of hoping for something, you DECIDE on it instead? How does that feel? That most likely empowers you to take action and puts you back in the driver’s seat.
Hoping is looking up at the sky and waiting. Deciding is looking around you to see how you’ll make it happen.
So when setting goals, even little ones, like tidying up for example, drop the hope and replace it with a decision. You’re not hoping to tidy up your bathroom today…you’re DECIDING to do it today. You can feel the energy is completely different from one statement to the next.
For your bigger goals, add the extra cherry on top…RESOLVE to do it.
When we resolve to make it happen, failure is no longer an option. We are stating to ourselves (and the universe) that “this WILL happen” and “I am the one to do it!” Pretty powerful. This does not mean you will single-handedly succeed. To succeed you will likely need support. So asking for help is an important part of this decision you’ve made. But by resolving, you are now opening yourself up to all the opportunities that will help you to succeed at your goal… Including unseen synchronicities that are on their way.
And I highly recommend telling other people what you have decided to do. By telling other people, you up your game and the desire to succeed is just that much stronger.
Any big goal I’ve ever achieved, (quitting smoking, getting my green card, writing a book) I announced to other people. By telling other people my goals, I was now being held accountable and being held to my word. It put the pressure on me to actually succeed.
So, beware of ‘hope’ when goal setting. Instead, take the plunge and DECIDE. Then tell all your friends and RESOLVE to accomplish your goals. And then, go do it!
If you need some help in decision making or extra support, get in touch and we’ll figure it out together.
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