We are almost at the end of another year. This can actually be a stressful and confronting time for many of us. Around now is when we realize we did not accomplish all the things we had hoped to do. This realization causes many of us to throw in the towel and just coast until New Year’s resolution time.
But, there can be great power in clearing the slate before the New Year.
I’m not saying to go crazy attempting to turn around all of this year’s let downs. Clearing the slate also involves letting go…maybe it’s time to eliminate some of those goals completely.
This is the time to do your ultimate “to-do” list…write out your goals, your desires, your responsibilities…put it all on one long page. (Include the mundane things you would like to have behind you such as donating old clothes, updating your calendar, getting the oil changed for your car.)
Write everything down. This could take some time. I recommend taking this list with you everywhere for a few days. Often things pop into our heads when we are in the car or in the bathroom…jot things down as they come to you and do not discriminate. Big or small, put them all on paper. (or create a list on your iphone and tell Siri to add things as they pop into your head)
Then, set aside a few hours to actually look at this list of yours.
Circle the doable items that will give you a great sense of relief to not have unfinished in the New Year. By completing these things, you will be entering the New Year “mental” clutter free as well as opening up the time to start new things. (and cross off or politely bow out of the things you agreed to do that simply won’t get done or will hold you back from the more important tasks on your list)
Then, circle the “big goals” that you did not accomplish. Then ask yourself, do they still serve you? Sometimes letting something go is more empowering than hanging onto it for dear life. Goals and dreams actually do have expiration dates. Put on your truth lenses and ask yourself if this is still worthy of your time and effort. Ask yourself why you set this goal in the first place and more importantly, do you still feel the same way about it now. This step of letting go may feel a little painful or sad, but there is great power in being honest with yourself. Honoring where you are NOW will ultimately help you to make better decisions as to where you want to go in the future.
How do you know if it’s time to let it go?
Is it taking too long? Is the pain outweighing the joy? Are you getting nowhere? Are you hanging onto it because you are afraid of what other people will say if you decide to “give up” on it? Is there something else nagging away at you? Could you actually try something different or new and still fulfill the desire that the original goal was meant to achieve?
Sit with this awhile. These are not easy questions to ask…even harder to answer with honesty and self compassion. But it is worth asking and answering.
You may decide to let it go. You may shed a tear or two and then allow yourself to open up to other possibilities you were too preoccupied to see.
Or, you may decide absolutely, NO! I’m not letting it go. And in that realization you will discover more clarity as to WHY you must keep this on your list of goals and desires.
The point is to be honest with yourself. And compassionate.
After you’ve decided what you will finish this year and what’s worthy of being brought into the New Year, set an aggressive massive action plan to get all that you can…DONE. Open up your day planner or calendar and schedule every task on that list.
The idea is to start 2017 with a CLEAN SLATE. Not a slate with leftovers from last year. Ideally the only leftovers being invited into the New Year are your passion projects that you have revisited and have even more clarity on. All the other stuff should be completed or at the very least, completed as much a possible before the New Year begins.
Take massive action NOW. Not only will you feel a ton of relief to have these things done, but you will also set up your momentum for the New Year when you set you goals for 2017. If you kick it into full throttle and get things done (even if some days it’s simply dropping off donations and gathering earthquake supplies), you will begin creating the habit of GETTING THINGS DONE. Then, when you get clear about your desires and set your goals for 2017, you will be able to be more specific and make clearer distinctions as to what you REALLY want to see happen next year.
So…write it ALL out. Decide what shall be done, what shall be let go of for good, and what shall be reinforced and invited into the New Year.
Then, go getter’ done!
I’d love to see your lists! Send them my way and keep me posted on how you’re doing. And if you want some extra “kick butt mojo”, get in touch and we’ll tackle it together.